Assalamu'alaikum w.b.t dan salam 1 malaysia
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Sunday, March 20, 2011
bad fever !
Assalamu'alaikum dan salam sejahtera rakan2
2-3 hari yg sibuk dan penat .
ditambah dgn kene hujan semalam telah menyebabkan demam panas tiba2 sampai tak leyy bgn dr katil .
tghr td mak dtg kl besame abah n 2 adk yg len . rs rindu dgn mak . waa ~ syg mak !
dia dtg kejut bgn suh makan lunch yg dibw dr johor . kemudian bg ubat tuk makan .
rindu dgn suasana mase kecik2.
biasenye cikk ida duk asrama sejak umo 13. smpai skng biase jauh dr parents .
walopun begitu . tetap rindu rumah .
*harap abah cpt pencen dan blk uma kami di meru, klang . huhu .
okeyy la . penat, pening n badan pun masih panas .
nakk rehat dulu . selamat malam sume :)
Friday, March 18, 2011
In a relationship, married or not... YOU SHOULD READ THIS!
In a relationship, married or not... YOU SHOULD READ THIS!
MARRIAGE
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said,
I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry.
She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outsidethe door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
*notes for u . i'll mis u . tengs mr a.
Thursday, March 17, 2011
da besawang ke ape blog ni ?
assalamu'alaikum n heyylo peeps!
moga sume rakan2 blog sentiasa dirahmati Allah s.w.t
rindu sbnrnye nk bebelog tp otak ni jemm.
ade la traffic skett . haha.
sbnrnye agak sibuk sjk kebelakangan ni .
akibat desakan encik Taufan Bin Ribut a.k.a encik hairul.
haaa . glamer kaww ~ haha
asek ty bile nk update blog ni.
akibat encik hairul asek bertanya . cik ida pun menghapdate la blog .
jom terjahhh blog die nehh .
http://taufanribut.blogspot.com/
ini owner blog
glamer kaww hairul. ahaha . akibat dorongan ko yg x sebape tuhh .
aku menghapdate blog yg chantekk ni. ngee ~
so . blog hari ini berkaitan kaww XD
bangge x? haha . pengeras mesti ade taw .
fevret aku mekdi . err . mcchicken set 1 dgn air melo tanak ais .
kalo belanje sayang lebeyy oke. err. sayang kwn maa.
hehe ~ okey . dats ol 4 today .
tengs :)
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
intebiu ~
assalamu'alaikum w.b.t
selamat sejahtera
haaa~ betemu kembali. eh. kite sume penah jumpe ke?
tetttt! detingg yokk. haha
sbenonye takot gak pg td waktu g intebiu.
setelah da lame dok tanam anggur~
p lintebiu d klinik dekat2 sini.
sini tu mane? biar la rasie ;p
hehehehe ~
okeyy. mlm sblm intebiunye plak.
dtg plak penyakit taleyy tdo. haihhh.
mate ni cam nak tebeliak da gamaknye nk tunggu smpai 10am.
seteleah blk intebiu. perut plak mogok kelaparan.
so, mencari la lunch. err. xtghri lg tapi tape la. skali je mknn kan. haha
blk mkn perut suda kenyang cikk ida pon tdo.
yg geramnye taley tdo nyenyak. pening kepalo den~
minom2 yokk!
Saturday, March 5, 2011
woh. penatt mengaco wat rojakkk.
assalamu'alaikum. salam sejahtera.
perghh! skema amat x? haha.
hari ini jualan garage sale okeyy la gak.
1st time adek meniaga kan kan.
hee~ mak pun ade gak wat kuah rojakk.
sape2 nk makan rojak n beli kuah rojak mai mai cni kt jualan shop ayaka collection :)
rojak : rm2.00 . kuah rojak : rm4.00 .
esok ade lagi jualan Home Garage Sale ini bertempat d tempat yg sama seperti hari ini.
vintage collection. bag. kasut. rojak. kuah rojak.
mari kawan2 datang ke Home Garage Sale .
esok hari terakhir . datang la yekk. heee :) Friday, March 4, 2011
heytt. awat la dgn ang ni mata oii ?
selamat malemmm ! haa.
oppsss! selamat pagi okeyy.
suda pagiiii. haha. mate tamaoo pejam. mmg penyaket yg taleyy di ubat.
kalo xtdo setelah pukul 12. perut mula berdondang sayang lagu mcm2 jenis la haihhh.
tataw nk kata,. haha. perutt! pelishhh pahami tuan. haha.
skng suda 5.05 AM. maka jelasla perut sgt lapa kan kan.
td selongkar punye la makanan mcm carikk HARTE KARUN yg dlm dunia kegelapan.
almaklum la kate malam kan. org tdo. mesti gelapp. haa.
akhirnya! jumpe la KOKO CRUNCH perase vanilla+chocolate.
nyum3. sgt rangup. abes mkn cr air tp xjumpe :(
tecekikk la. air liur cukup x? haha ;p
okeyy. smpai sini je. ptt da tdo tp mate degill tuannye tepakse bejaga.
sabar jela kan kan? haaa :)
okeyy. waktu untuk tido! selamat pagiee!
Thursday, March 3, 2011
convo 03032011 .
assalamu'alaikum . epy friday ! :)
heyy ols MURNI's student . congrates to ol seniors till juniors .
alhamdulillah .
03032011 . alhamdulillah .
akhirnya . selesai sudah konvo yeahh ! :)
rindu ketemu kwn2 lame . pasni tataw bile ley jumpe kan kan. sob3 ;(
harap dpt lagi ketemukk akan datang.
paling penting kawen jempott ! hehe ;p
heyy . diharap sume dpt keje bek2.
tengs kpd family , kengkwn n photographer .
moga kite semua d kurniakan rahmat yg berpanjangan dr Yang Maha Esa .
insyaAllah . amin :)
cikk dila yg tersayang ! :)
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